Everyone–not just alcoholics et cetera addicts–has at least one redeeming feature defect. After all, no one is perfect, and certainly hardly addicts and alcoholics either. Rehabilitation at a drug and liquor treatment center has found that, even plus long-term clean/sober time, those defects of character are something we always deal with.
We ask God to remove our character defects, but the twist is that He usually does so on His time. Thus what do we do in the meantime?
There are many who pick to humor in these character defects, under the premise that one day, God will magically say, “Defect, be gone!” connective the devotee or alcoholic doesn’t have to deal along it any longer.
It doesn’t work that way. If we actively secure in–and especially if we still enjoy–these defects of character, then the likelihood of them being removed diminishes significantly. However, that doesn’t mean it is impossible. Instead, it will dharma come with a lot more pain, much in the same way our drinking and using careers ended.
Because drugs and alcohol are just symptoms of addiction, it is incredibly easy for us to focus that compulsion elsewhere. Some might see that being a good thing, but addiction is addiction. It just means your life will become unmanageable through a different means.
Sex, work, games, chores, reading, you name it…all of our character defects can send us liberty back into the throes concerning addiction and alcoholism if we choose to indulge in them. The Big Book from AA describes it as “instincts gone awry” when speaking of the Fourth Step, and that is exactly what they are. On their own, in the control of normal men and women, these things are fine, but anything taken to excess can be harmful, no matter how benign it may seem.
Instead, we confident and pray that we do better by these defects of character on a daily basis. No one is completely relieved from all these character defects–unless untried ones are replacing them. The Big Book emphasizes that we look for progress, nought perfection.
Especially as addicts and alcoholics, varied of us throw up our arms and say, “What’s the point?” if these complexion defects aren’t removed quickly, completely, and painlessly. The point is that we do better than we did the day before, and we mend these bridges and personal relationships we damaged also time. Something is better than nothing, regardless of how petty it may seem. Remember, it is far easier to destroy something in a cycle than it is to renovate something. Albeit it goes against every instinct we have, we have to trust the group, our sponsor, and our Higher Power(s) that this is indeed the right path to follow.
Clearly, the paths we chose didn’t work.